De små øyeblikkene…

Vi lever i et stadig travlere samfunn! Vi jobber, studerer, planlegger ferier, går på kafé, henter og bringer barn til ulike aktiviteter, kjøper nye ting vi egentlig ikke trenger, bryr oss unødvendig mye om hvordan alle andre gjør det eller har det og lever opp til stadig høyere forventninger fra samfunnet rundt oss… Hva må til for at vi skal stoppe opp litt og nyte livet mens vi kan?

Det enkleste er å snakke ut fra egen erfaring og siden vi alle har ulike livshistorier, vil forutsetningene være forskjellige avhengig av hvem man snakker med. Men det jeg tror er likt for de fleste, er at vi kanskje burde være flinkere til å sette pris på øyeblikkene. Vi har det så travelt med å planlegge det neste store som skal skje av jobbmuligheter eller ferier, at vi helt glemmer å leve her og nå. Det å ha kalenderen full 24/7 til langt ut i 2017 kan vel ikke akkurat sies å være et kvalitetstegn? Det er riktignok fint for økonomien og man rekker sannsynligvis ikke å bli så ensom… Men hva med livskvaliteten og de dyrebare øyeblikkene? De øyeblikkene man aldri får igjen, når de allerede er overstått!

For min egen del gjelder det vanskelige livserfaringer, som har rammet meg selv eller medlemmer av nærmeste familie. Jeg har hatt opplevelser som jeg ikke ville ønsket for mine verste fiender og som jeg gjerne kunne vært foruten. Samtidig er det opplevelser som har gjort sterkt inntrykk på meg og bidratt til at jeg setter pris på livet i mye større grad nå enn før. En av de mange klisjeene sier det er ikke hvordan man har det, men hvordan man tar det og det stemmer faktisk ganske bra! Sett i lys av de erfaringene jeg har fått, både på godt og vondt, så har jeg blitt flinkere til å nyte nettopp de små øyeblikkene. Den halvtimen på en solfylt veranda med en god kamerat, hvor vi begge kan snakke om livets mysterier over en kopp kaffe. Eller en kveldstur i heia med musikk på øret og gleden over at sommeren nettopp er begynt…

Det som skjedde i går kan ingen forandre og hva som hender i morgen vet vi ikke, men dagen i dag kan vi nyte og glede oss over.

Når det kommer til stykket, er det opp til hver enkelt av oss å bestemme hvilket liv vi har lyst å leve. Mitt liv leves her og nå, i de små øyeblikkene som bærer deler av livets skatt med seg og gir meg styrke til å møte en ny dag…

 

 

Odderøya

 

 

 

Work in progress…

Have you ever come across the phrase «work in progress»? And if you came across it, did you ever stop to think about what it means?

A common explanation of this phrase, is something that isn’t quite finished yet… Something that needs a little adjustment before it’s no longer «in progress». If you google the phrase, you’ll get approximately 502 000 000 results given in 52 seconds. One of the most common explanations to «work in progress» is one from the world of art and entertainment. Whenever a theatrical or artistic production is close to being done, they will often open up to an audience while still working on it. That way, they can showcase and get feedback before opening night and change those bits and pieces that didn’t work out so well. Hollywood does it as well when they pre-screen movies for select groups prior to the premiere, so the final result can be as big of a blockbuster as possible! Another way to use «work in progress» is whenever you speak of any talent that still haven’t peaked at the top of his or her ability, such as an athlete. But how does «work in progress» relate more specifically to you?

Regardless of your talent, your participation in an audience or as a cast member in a production, you are a living example of work in progress! From the moment you were born till the moment you die, you will continue to change and develop. You will experience all the challenges that is life and you will make a lot of different choices, some that will benefit you and others that you’ll wish you never made! Some people will probably appear to be forever in progress, while others will seem like the perfect example of a person who can handle anything. It doesn’t matter which one of those you are! What matters is that you recognize the fact that you are indeed a «work in progress»! When you realize this, you have the power to make the changes that are good for you and that should always be your number one priority! Someone once said that we are born as originals and die as copies. If you allow yourself to be that work in progress and accept that you’ll make choices that might not always be the right ones, you’ll be better equipped to remain the original throughout your life! I don’t know about you, but I’m perfectly content being a work in progress and I have every intention of being an original for as long as I live…

What’s your escape?

The best year of my life, was the year I spent working at Walt Disney World in 1995/96. I landed in Orlando on september 10th as an innocent 21 year old, not quite knowing what to expect and ready for new adventures… I was fortunate enough to be one of six Norwegians to be part of the Fellowship Ambassador Program at EPCOT, a year that gave me many different experiences and also provided me with knowledge I still use to this day. Being around so many people from all over the world, gave me a new outlook on life and forever changed my view and respect for diversity. I worked at the Norway Pavilion, had internships and represented both Norway and Walt Disney World at several events. I was able to visit the parks whenever I wanted and there was fireworks every night at closing. Basically, it was the perfect place to be!!

Like all dreams, it came to an end… For me it was a brutal end! I went back to Norway and wanted nothing more than to return to Florida. I felt like I had left a big piece of my heart behind and would try my best to find a way to return. I applied for the Green Card Lottery a few times after returning to Norway, but was never the lucky winner… As the years went by, I had several different jobs within the service/travel industry at home. However, I always had this longing to return to Disney and could never settle down like I wanted to. Whenever my life was tough, I would dream away once more and Walt Disney World became my escape.

As part of a downward spiral, I experienced what most people would call a mid-life crisis. At age 37 I was a conductor with the Norwegian Railroad and had been for a few years. I had a good job and I was good at it, but I wasn’t feeling so good… July 2012 was the summer that changed my life completely and was the start of a long healing process. It took me a couple of years and involved therapy, frustration, regret for dreams that was never realized. But most importantly, I was able to find the strength and courage within myself to get back up! As a result, I went back to university in August last year to finish a degree that had been 20 years in the making. And having gone to therapy every week for six months last year, I was able to change something important in my head: escape from problems is never a good solution, because the problems will always be there when you return…

So what about that escape? Instead of living in broken dreams of the past, I try to utilize my experience from the past into something good here and now. Life needs to be lived in the present, where all opportunities are open to those who look for them. Walt Disney World is still the symbol of the single best year in my life and always will be. But I have learned how to deal with my problems and I no longer need to escape when life is difficult!

Spaceship Earth EPCOT
Spaceship Earth EPCOT

 

Ready for what comes next…

It’s official!! I’m no longer a student….. In a period of 4 weeks I’ve had 4 exams, the last one a couple of days ago. Since I started studying in August 2014, I’ve done several assignments that includes writing this blog and making a website for a close friend! But more than that, I’ve also been able to fulfill my goal of finishing a bachelors degree – although it took 20 years (better late than never, right?)!

Going back to university as an adult has been a very interesting experience and I’d do it all over again if I had the chance! There is something so rewarding about being in an academic environment and making a change to the better for myself. No doubt I’ve been lazy and I could’ve made better grades had I studied harder. But at the same time, it’s not just about the grades. It’s about the personal journey I’ve been on for the last 3-4 years, culminating with these exams and that bachelors degree. Those are the proof that it can be done, even when you feel so low that it seems impossible to ever get back up…

So, where does that leave me? To be honest, I have no idea… Wether I’ll get a job in Kristiansand where I live or if I’ll have to move, only time will tell. But I know for sure that I’m better equipped for the future! Not just because I’ve been able to finish a degree (if I pass all exams) and will be more eligible for those jobs, but I’ve been able to pick myself up off the ground and change the course of my life! I’ve been able to recognize the need to make that change and then I’ve done something about it! That’s what life is about, making the necessary changes so the life we live can be a fulfilling one!

 

«As you walk down the fairway of life you must smell the roses, for you only get to play one round.» Ben Hogan

 

 

Appreciate the little things in life, they make life worth living!